24th July 2025 - How Do You Meet Yourself?

Hello, beautiful souls and welcome to today's contemplation. I have a question for you. The fact this question is actually almost the title of a book, which I'm going to tell you a little bit more about in a moment. But I really want you to think about this question, to ponder this question, to ask yourself this question, how do you meet yourself on a daily basis? How do you meet yourself on a daily basis? So there's a book that I've had for a really long time that I've worked through that I really dive is called How to Meet Yourself, and it's written by Dr. Nicole Lipper, I think is how you pronounce her name. And it's actually more of a workbook and it's all about self-awareness and building your self-awareness and your ability to change your life, change your beliefs, change how you take care of yourself, change your views of yourself, just change your life and be happier and all of those things.

(01:07)
But the title of this book itself really got me thinking about how we meet ourselves on a day-to-day basis. And again, from this place of awareness, how do you talk to yourself? What do you expect from yourself? What do you tell yourself? What do you tell other people about yourself? How do you meet yourself? Do you meet yourself? Imagine just for a moment, I just want you to visualize this for a moment. Imagine you are somebody else meeting you. You are somebody outside of you meeting you for the very first time. And when they connect with you, the very first thing that they say to you, you first their eyes on them, you see them and the first thing they say to you is, oh, well, it's going to be a busy day today. You've got so much to do, you look really tired and exhausted. There's no way you're going to get everything done today. Oh God, I've got to get up, get the kids to school again. You didn't do any of that stuff yesterday, did you?

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I mean, usually you look really beautiful, but I can see the bags on your eyes. You clearly didn't sleep very well last night. Well, here we go again. You said you were going to do that yesterday and you didn't do it, did you? But can you imagine someone walking up to you and the first thing they say to you as soon as they lock eyes with you are things like that. Things that are negative or things that indicate that you might not be good enough or that you are going to have a hard day, or that you are always letting people down or letting yourself down or that you're not capable. Can you imagine if you met somebody, would you want that person in your life? Would you make space for that person in your life? Or would you run in the opposite direction and say, no thank you.

(03:22)
Let's just imagine that person again. What if this time it wasn't about what they said? What if they walked up to you this time and they pinched you or you went to give them a hug and they didn't reciprocate, instead they actually pushed you away. Or what if they came up to you and they saw that you were tired and they said, get to work, or they forced you to walk somewhere or do something. Or what if they walked up to you and they shouted at you? Or what if they walked up to you and you were crying and you were sad and they just went, oh, get over it. Move on. Tough shit. This is how life is. Or what if you were spilling your biggest dream to them, biggest goal or desire to them, and they said, there's no point you're going to fail.

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Would you want to hang around with them? Then would you stay continuing talking to them? Then would you make room for this person in your life? Then they've physically abused you, they've tear down your dreams, they've, you just wouldn't. So why or why then do we make space and place importance upon the thoughts that come into our mind that are just like that? And why do we allow them to linger? Why do we allow them to influence our feelings and how we move and act in the world? How do you meet yourself when you first open your eyes in the morning? I had a moment of this the other day where I opened my eyes and I kind of overslept the alarm and I was like, oh, for goodness sake, you're going to be late. And then I climbed out of bed and I got downstairs and put the kettle on it.

(05:18)
I quickly put my walking meditation audio on so I could listen to that whilst I was getting ready in the morning and all the whilst, whilst I was getting ready. I was just thinking, oh, I'm so tired. I can't wait to get back into bed today. I'm just not going to make it through today. I've got so much to do today. There's no way I'm going to keep up with it all. That was what was going in my head. And I had to pause for a minute and say, says who according to who, I've just woken up. Sure, my mind is taking a little time to catch up. My body's adjusting to being awake. I'll be fine in a few minutes. Let me take a few deep breaths. Let me step outside. There's loads of energy available to me outside to draw upon, and I have got lots to do today.

(05:58)
And after I've woken up a bit and had some breakfast, I'll be so energized and I'm going to have plenty of time to do it. And if I'm organized and structured and I just do what I can do, that will be enough. And anything that I don't get done today, that's okay. It'll be done tomorrow. And it's really not that big of a deal and it's okay, we've got this, but you've got this Jesus Christ, you've got this. You know who you are. You know what you're capable of. I want a friend that talks to me like that and I want an inner being that talks to me like that, don't you?

(06:32)
Because it just changes the way you move, changes the way you feel, changes the way that you show up. And it sure as hell changes the trajectory that you are on for reaching your goals and having the success that you desire and it makes you just feel freaking good. So stop making space for meeting yourself. The person that you would never invite into your life, your worst enemy. You wouldn't have that person in your life. So don't be that person in your life. Don't be somebody who you wouldn't even have stepped through your front door. Don't talk to yourself in the way that you would not tolerate from anybody else. Set better boundaries in your own mind and every time you notice yourself talking in such ways, stop, breathe, pause and be your own best friend. Be your own cheerleader and really tap into the truth because all of those things that you're saying to yourself are absolute lies.

(07:40)
Your soul knows are lies. They're all lies in every single belief that you hold that is not serving you is just a lie that you are telling yourself. It's just a lie that you're telling. Why would you lie to yourself, lie to anybody else, would you? I know you're all women of integrity, so why lie to yourself? And if you can't be honest with yourself, who else can you be honest with? And we know that these things aren't true about us. We know that we are capable. We know that we are limitless. We know that we matter. We know that we are enough. We know that we are successful even if mind doesn't know it, because mind is based up of other people's belief systems. These thoughts that all of those thoughts that you are having, do you think you're the only person to have those thoughts?

(08:28)
Do you think you are the first person to have those thoughts? No. The reason that those thoughts are in places because they exist within our collective field and our societal field, and they're things that we have picked up subconsciously and thought over and over and over again because other people have thought them before us, either about themselves or about us, and they've become our thoughts, they've become our belief patterns, but just because they have been part of society for a long time make them true. We know this. And so when I say you know that you are capable, you know that you're enough, that you're amazing, you know that you have the capacity to do great things, you know that it's safe for you to rest, that it's okay not to be on, switched on all the time, blah, blah, blah. When I say I mean at a soul level, embody in soul, deep, deep, deep, deep in your heart and in the soul of you, and the energy of you and the divinity in you and the universe, in you that you are all of those things and that the things that you're telling yourself that are not supportive, the thoughts that you keep on thinking, the things that you keep repeating to yourself, these are nothing but beliefs that lies that you keep telling yourself.

(09:50)
And you know that at core level. So choose and get to choose. When you have that awareness, you get to choose, am I going to keep thinking this? Am I going to keep playing into this, or I'm going to choose a better thought? Am I going to choose my inner know, am I choose what I know to be true about myself instead? It's up to you my love.