22nd July 2025 - Dreams vs Soul Desires

Hello, beautiful souls and welcome to today's contemplation. So I promised that I would come back and speak a little bit more on dreams, and I want to talk about this is in terms of dreams versus desires. Because as I spoke about in one of the previous takeaways, dreams are often thought of as the big things that we want to achieve or accomplish or experience in this lifetime. Like you might have a dream of buying a beach side villa. You could have a dream of becoming a multimillionaire. You might have a dream of having a bigger family or a partner or a lover or traveling the world going to different places. We have these big dreams and when we talk about dreams, I often think about things that we've always kind of placed higher material value on in our lives. And dreams are amazing. I love having big dreams and you know me, I love to break those big dreams down into smaller action steps that help me to make my way towards that dream.

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But for me, when I think of dreams, I think of something that feels far reaching, that feels like I couldn't just do it tomorrow, like it's going to take me a while to get there. We also know that when it comes to setting big goals and setting big dreams, that we can collapse that timeline by taking a look at what it is that we believe to be true about how long it's actually going to take us. Or for example, let's say your dream is to do a TEDx talk and you think that in order to do a TEDx talk, you have got to become a world-class speaker. You've got to improve your skills, you've got to get really confident with being on stage. You're going to have to have lots of followers and maybe a book published or something so that they'll take you seriously and that you have to be at the top of your game and the most favorite in your industry or whatever.

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So you have all of these beliefs that make you think, well, I'm not any of those things yet, or I don't have those things yet, so I have to work towards them. However, if we look at the evidence, there are people that have gone on to do TEDx talks where their TEDx talk has been their first ever live public performance where they don't have a book published where they're actually terrified before they go on that stage, but they do it anyway where all sorts of things. And so there is evidence out there that says that's not true for us. Now if we can comment that evidence and shift our belief patterns, we can actually start taking actions quicker. We can start making applications, we can start looking at what it really takes. We can start getting inspired. This can collapse the timeline for us so we can absolutely get to our big goals quicker.

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But what I've also found to be true, and so I'm going to say, and at the same time as this big goals can often lead to us feeling pressured or we could have created them based on what somebody else has told us is going to make us feel happier or what we believe will make us look better or so they can be big dreams and goals and aspirations that aren't really connected to our sole desires. And this is why I want to create the distinction because for me, when I am talking to you guys and say, let's say for example, in planning and accountability on a Friday inside the academy, in those calls, when I say to you, what do you really want to accomplish at the end of the week? What's your soul calling for? What would feel great to celebrate at the end of the week?

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We can think really big like, oh, I'd love to have my first 10 K launch ever, but I've only ever sold one thing before. Or we can tap into our soul desires right now. And so what does our soul desire right now look like? The sole desire is what is true for me in this moment that I really, really want to experience? And usually that comes through from two places. The first is contrast. So for example, right now you might be experiencing a lack of money in your bank account. You've got this feeling of pressure on your bank account, and so that's something you know that you do not desire. I really don't want to keep experiencing this anymore. And on the flip side of that, your sole desire is I want to experience just more breath room in my bank, balance, more stability in my finances, more please, more income, please, more money, please.

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And there may be a figure on that or it may just be a sense of not having to worry about money for a little while or having some stability or having some savings. That might be the core desire. Now, when we're in that kind of moment, if we can focus on the desire and not the lack, we are going to be more encouraged to work towards that. It's going to be more pressing for us to do something about it. We're going to have more drive and ambition and force. And these are the kinds of goals that can manifest really freaking quickly because of how much this comes from a core place of soul desire rather than something that feels out there far away, not able to attain. I'll give you another example that's not money based and it doesn't have so much pressure around it.

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So one of the things right now for me is that in contrast, I have really good relationships with my children and with my partner. However, at the same time as that, I feel like we don't all get enough one-to-one connection time and we are not getting, and a lot of that is based on dopamine hits. So it's like gaming together or watching films together like lots of screen time, not so much connection, outdoor time. And my deepest desire, and I know what this feels like because I've experienced it, is to have more one-to-one time with each of my children and with my partner and to have more connection time and more intimacy time. And so this is a sole desire. This is a soul longing. This isn't a big to-do list. It's a soul longing of what that connection and intimacy can feel like and what it would look like.

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And I can see that and I can touch it and I can taste it and I can feel it. This is a desire, it's not a goal, it's not a dream. It's like a deep desire from my core to have more intimacy and connection in one-to-one time with each of the beings that I love in my life. And so that is like a driving force. I've already set a plan in motion for this week of how I'm going to bring that about and how we're going to create more of that over the school holidays. This is something that I have already set into motion because it comes from a place of desire, not aspiration. Does that make sense? Like a desire not aspiration?

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Now, one final example, I'm going to give you a desire, a soul level desire, but that could look like a dream goal or aspiration to somebody else. And then we're going to bring this home. So another sole desire of mine right now, this has been a sole desire since the beginning of the year and the desire just keeps growing and growing. I can feel it in my womb space. I can feel it in my chest space, I can feel it in my heart space. And I literally, if I close my eyes and breathe and drop out of mind and into body and feeling into my heart space, feeling into my G center, feeling into my sacral center. This is a knowing and knowing and knowing of pure desire coming from Seoul, which is that I would love for us to move this year into a bigger house, A house where we all have space where everyone has their own room, where there is an office space where all of the children have their own setups and spaces where we have big enough gardens, have climbing frames and all kinds of beautiful things where just space and I can feel it and can see it and I know it.

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And that is an absolute soul desire for me. Now, a big home, a big spacious five bedrooms and office space, all of the things, we're just going to have space, freaking space. I can feel that it's a soul desire. And so I know it's going to happen because I know that whatever comes from my soul, and this is what I want to tap you into, whatever is a soul level, desire for you is meant for you. There is nothing that you can do to fuck it up. There is nothing that you can do to make it not come about. It is designed for you. It will not pass you by for as long as you are in knowing that you are the creator of your reality. And for as long as you trust that soul level, desire coupled with your type stretching authority for knowing when and how to move towards that to what to do next, you cannot fuck it up. You cannot go wrong. And from that place, there is this pure, potent power to bring about anything your soul desires.

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And I truly, truly believe that so many of us have set goals in our business and goals in our life based on what we think success looks like based on what we see other people's lives like other people who are living their lives and showcasing their lives and what we think we want based on their life, based on something outside of us, not on what we are feeling inside of us and what we are experiencing in the now. Abraham Hicks talks about this, that a launch of desire, a rocket of desire, I think she calls it a rocket of desire, literally comes about through contrasting experiences in our life through the things that we don't want when we experience something we don't want. A rocket of desire is launched and that rocket of desire is a soul desire. Its soul level if you desire it. This is from the soul.

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And so if we focus on the desire and focus on the creation of those desires, rather than focusing on looking outside of ourselves and seeing what we think we should want in our lives. So I said there were two places where desires come from and the other place that desire comes from. So I spoke about the desiring contrast, but I also want to speak about the desire for more of the good that we're experiencing. And I think these make some of the best sales goals, money goals that you could ever have because they're not arbitrary. And that is, I've just made a sale. Just imagine right now you've just made a sale, something that you really wanted to sell, you've been waiting for it to come in, it's just come in and you're like, yes, and you celebrate it. And then you are like, I'm so grateful for this.

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This feels so good. More of this, please, I'd like another one. I desire another one. Or when you have a really good connection with a friend and you go out for dinner and you chat and it's a great night and you leave feeling on top of the world and you're like, I just want more of this, please, more opportunities to have a child free night with my friends. Or when you go to a networking event and from that networking event, you have referrals coming to you like so many referrals and it feels so good to generate leads in this way because all it's taken for you to do is go and enjoy this event and speak to people and share what it is you do and talk about what you love to talk about. And it just feels so natural and so easy and you're like, I just want more of that.

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Please. More easy sales, more easy referrals, more great networking events. I want more of that, please. And that's like a soul level desire. And these are some of the best. These is where I've seen like business go from being struggle, effort, like trying so hard to make something happen, to going to recognizing the little small wins, the smaller things that are happening. If we took this down even further a scale, like let's say you haven't even made the sale yet, but you are getting inquiries and conversations are happening and you go just more of that, please, more inquiries, more conversations, this feels really good. That compounds and you start to move differently because you start moving in a way of appreciation and gratitude and at the same time with desire for more. And so that leads to you having this ambition to keep doing what you are doing or to deepen what you're doing or to refine what you are doing or to show up in more of that energy in order to create more of what you are already receiving. And so the abundance continues to grow, to expand, to grow, to expand, and it compounds. These are the two ways in which we have soul level desires. And so when I say you are absolutely limitless, you are. But just make sure that you are setting your goals and aspirations and where you want to move to based on that inner experience and not on the outer world.