21st July 2025 - What They Tell You Shrinks You

Hello, beautiful souls and welcome to today's contemplation. Along my business journey, I have let the voices of other people make me shrink myself and question myself and doubt myself. There were people when I first started out doing live videos that would say, oh my gosh, it's amazing. You give so much, but it's so long like moms are busy. We don't have time to listen to all of this. We don't have time to watch all of this. Keep it short, keep it sweet. And that one really kind of got to me because I'm a talker. You ladies know I'm a talker. And my gate 62 is all about communication. It's all about ensuring that I break things down in a way that everybody can understand, in a way that things can land in multiple different ways in multiple different places in an expressive way like self-expressed.

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And my self-expression is detail. It's detail. In my gate 62, it's detail in my one line, in my profile. It's detail in the well of ity, which is another one of my defined gates, and it is part of who I am. I am a talker and I'm an explainer, and I'm very, very grateful for that gift. Now, at the time, it made me want to do shorter lives and shorter messages, and then I stopped going live so much and I stopped sharing so much. Another thing that was said to me that made me shrink myself a little bit was that I'm putting too much pressure on women by telling them to dream big and to go for their ambitions, and that they are capable of doing more and accomplishing more than they ever thought possible. And this one came from a friend of mine who's very close and I love her dearly. And she always been somebody that's very happy and content with what she has. She's not naturally ambitious, and she really appreciates the simple aspects of life. And for her, she felt like my message of being limitless was putting pressure on moms who were already feeling pressured. So I started speaking in a different way that really hit me in the heart, not just because of what she said, but who it came from. Somebody I trust, somebody I admire, somebody I love with all of my heart and soul, and still to this day very much do.

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But that led me to questioning should I be telling people to do more, that they have the capacity to do more, that they have the capacity to hold more. And so for a little while, I started to stop talking about the dreams and start talking about wellbeing only and looking after yourself and bringing in happiness and joy. But there was a big part of myself that was then lost from my message and lost from my programs, which was the true belief that we as moms deserve to live out our dreams and our goals just as much as our children do, and that we are limitless beings. We have this potential within us to create all that our heart desires. And so I came back round to that. Eventually I brought that aspect of myself back into my work, but it took me some time because I was so afraid of putting undue pressure on other moms.

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Like I never want you guys to feel like you are stretched beyond your capacity or to a point of burnout, or that you are in comparison to other people and watching their lives and thinking that your life should be more like that. But what I really desire for people and has always been at my core, is that it's not about big goals necessarily, unless that's what your soul desires. It's about that soul desire, the truth, desire, and I'm going to speak about this in another contemplation this week as well. So that was something that I was told that made me kind of shrink myself back. And then I had to navigate my way back to alignment. Another thing that I was told, and this might sound a bit contradictory here, but hear me out, was that I was playing too small, that my dreams weren't big enough.

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So in this online space, and I think it's still prevalent, but I guess I'm not so privy to it now because I'm not looking out for it now, but in the beginning of my journey in the online space, there was so much talk about you are playing it small. If you don't have big dreams, big ambitions. If you're not going for six figure years and multimillions in your business, then you are holding back and you're not being honest with yourself about what it is you truly desire. And you should set your sights higher and set bigger goals. And that led me to setting goals that weren't really in the core of my core and heart of heart, things that I actually wanted for myself right now. It also led to me focusing on big numbers rather than my next right step. And I've become such a fan of the incremental upgrade that feels so much more gentler on the body and on the nervous system, and yet I held so much shame around that. So what that led to me doing was not sharing my goals that I was working towards on my social media or as part of my journey, not talking about it so much because my goals started to feel insignificant. And that meant I stopped sharing so much of the behind the scenes things or the process I was going through for myself to get to my goals because I didn't want people to know how small and insignificant my goals were. And of course, that's all relative. What else have I been told?

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Things like that. Things like right now I'm recording this daily takeaway just gone midnight. And I remember being told if you stay up late and staying up late is really bad for you, essentially you are not going to be your most productive. You're not going to be your most efficient. What I've realized is that as a generator, it is so important for me to use the energy that's available to me when it's available to me, when my sacral says yes until it is fully depleted. It is so important for us as generators to go to bed tired and satisfied, meaning that we have used our energy in alignment in the correct way to its fullest potential on the things that bring us joy. And if we try going to sleep before then our minds will run right? We won't have the best rest, sleep. And also that I can stay up late when it is in alignment for me when there is sacral energy there and still function the next day because I understand my generative capacity of the sacral center a long time ago.

(07:23)
I didn't really understand that. Now, at the same time, I do believe sleep is important. I do prioritize my sleep on nights like this. I know tomorrow morning that I don't have to get up at any particular time so I can allow myself to get a full seven to eight, nine hours sleep without worrying that I'm going to be exhausted the next day. I do understand the effects of getting enough sleep on our body, and I promote it all of the time. And at the same time, I also understand and know what's right for me. And so listening to other people tell me what to do with my body as gospel and to follow that every single day meant that I was missing out on some of my most creative hours and some of the times where downloads come to me or creative inspiration comes to me and I'd force myself, I'll capture that tomorrow.

(08:11)
And by the time tomorrow came, it would be gone. And so these are just a few examples of things that I've been told that have led me to operating out of alignment. And I would love for you this week to contemplate what things are you listening to in your life right now that might not actually be aligned for you? Or what things have people said to you that have filled you with fear, that have stopped you from operating in your business in the way that you want to? Or what expectations has somebody else placed upon you that you are still living up to, even though at a soul level that your truth is different, that that's not your truth? Contemplate that and come to your personal power. Come back to your alignment because it's safe for you to follow what you know is right for you.

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It is safe for you to express all of yourself in the way that you would naturally express yourself. It's safe for you to choose your own path. It's safe for you to choose your own dreams and desires like you are safe. And you know you better than anybody else, better than I do, better than any other person in your life can. You are the person who's deeply connected to you and who knows what's right for you and knows who you are meant to be and knows what you are here to express in the world and to give to the world. So don't let anybody take that away from you or keep you playing small. And when I say playing small, I don't mean not dreaming big enough. I mean shrinking yourself expression or moving in ways that you don't want to or that stop you from being who you want to be as in playing small that way, shrinking your auric field, shrinking your capacity, shrinking your expression, because that expression is exactly who you are here to be. And that is exactly what will lead you to the success that you are desiring for yourself. And the more you can let go of those constraints that you are placing upon yourself based on other people's opinions, the freer, the more satisfied, the more all you're going to experience, the more peace you're going to experience, and just generally the more success that you are going to experience holistically and overall in all aspects of your life and your business. And I couldn't ask for anything more for you.