26th May 2025 - Fill your cup... but when?

Hello, beautiful souls and welcome to today's takeaway.

So we've all heard the saying, you cannot pour from an empty cup and you hear me bang on about wellbeing again and again and again, and again, and again. Something that I want you to consider, however, is that I know that you are all doing things for you or should be now that you have the resources and tools inside the academy to support yourself, your wellbeing, your nervous system, your regulation, all of those things. If you have not yet delved into the resources, what you want to have a look at is our wellbeing portal. And inside there I would start with all of the building resilience workshops because they're probably going to be the first things that drop you into nurturing your physical vessel and nurturing your mental vessel. So ultimately, we should all be doing something, whether it's getting sleep or increasing our hydration, we should all be working on an area of our wellbeing that we know right now has perhaps not had as much attention as is required, and taking some time to nurture that and to build new habits that are going to help us long term to continue to sustain that aspect of our wellbeing.

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If you're not, that's what I want you to do this week is to find the thing that you know most is suffering or is not being attended to in your wellbeing. And put something in place to help you build a new habit that will help you to nurture that and to improve that aspect of your wellbeing. But if you are already doing that, I want you to think about something. Where does your cup filling come in your day? In other words, do you leave it until the end of the day, like you deal with everything throughout the day and then you wait until everyone else is in bed and then you do something for you before you go to bed? Or are you starting your day with things that absolutely fill your cup so that at the beginning of your day before the day really kicks off?

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Your cup is so overflowing full that you have an abundance to give to your day? Or are you starting with your cup? Are you waking up in the morning starting with your cup pretty much empty, and then not doing anything to fill your cup at the beginning of the day and then trying to run on the dregs of the dregs at the bottom of your cup until we get to the end of the day. Again, where are you starting your day? Is your cup overflowing and full or is it halfway full but not quite full? Where are you starting your day from? With that in consideration, what would change for you? What would be different for you if you actually took the time before your real day began, before the tasks began, before the nurturing of children began? Before all of the things in your day began, if you woke up and the first thing that you did was tended to fill in your cup so that you were operating from overflow for the first part of your morning, how would that change?

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What would change for you? What would you need to do in the mornings in order to do that? So for me, it's about hydration, meditation, and nervous system regulation, making sure that I'm starting out with the intention that I want to carry through my day is movement because I'm a sacral being and I need to activate that sacral center so that I have that juicy, generative energy to also have that ability to respond throughout out my day and to connect to sacral. So that's something that I do. And then it's also to feed myself, which has been probably my hardest thing, is to make sure that I eat something in the morning so that I have physical fuel. And so you can look at this through the aspects of mind, body, and soul. What are all the things that you need? Something for your mind, something for your body, something for your soul.

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And it might vary day to day. For me, I'm fully left facing arrows, so the more structure and systems I have around this, the better. But you might be somebody that is quad left and therefore you're going to need more flow. It's going to be like tapping into what do I need this morning to fill my cup? Either way, whichever way you do this, make sure that that becomes your intention when you first get up in the morning, is to fill your cup to the top. Now then we carry our day, we move through our day with our cup full. But obviously as we move through our day, our cup is being used. The well of water or the well of resource or the well of vitality is being used throughout the day. And this is where it comes to when we plan and we do planning and accountability.

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I say to you in between tasks, allow yourself time to reset. In those times where you've allowed yourself between tasks, time to reset. It's not just about doing the same thing every time. It's about going, what do I need for me now? What part of my wealth spring needs to be replenished? In order for me to continue to be able to give from overflow, I always want as much as possible my cup to be refilled, to overflow throughout the day as many times as possible so that I'm always able to give from that place and not from a place of depletion. So what are you going to do throughout your day, in between your tasks to help to replenish yourself? And are you doing that? And then it comes to the end of the day, and the end of the day is important. What do you do before you switch off at night in order to refill your cup?

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What time are you going to bed at night in order to make sure that you've had enough sleep? Get up the next day and to feel refreshed. Can you take some time this week to acknowledge that you probably haven't been filling your cup as much as is required for you to be able to give from overflow? And then can you start to make some tweaks and changes to the way that you are operating and become the woman that makes her wellbeing and her wealth spring of vitality that she gives from the most important and first thing that you nurture in the day, the thing that never gets neglected. Can you be the kind of woman who makes sure that she is served first? I'll leave that with you.