21st April 2024 - How Bad Do You Want This?

Hello, beautiful souls and welcome to today's takeaway and daily contemplation. I had a mentor once that said to me, are you willing to do whatever it takes? And I was like, yeah, absolutely. And they said, how bad do you want this? How bad do you want to grow a brand to six figures? And I was like, I mean, it's the dream, right? This is the absolute dream. Of course I want it happen. And they're like, this is what you need to do, and you get it done at all costs, and then you can reap the rewards later. So I did. I went all in on my business. I went fully all in. I'd wake up at 5:00 AM every single morning. I'd do all my visualization stuff. I'd create content. I'd show up and do lives. I'd do all of my client calls. I would be in people's dms, jumping on sales calls all day long.

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Sometimes I'd stay up until 2:00 AM to learn stuff or to implement stuff. And at the same time, I'm parenting three children. We were home educating three children, and I was absolutely burning myself into the ground. Now, true generator fashion, I went all in. But here's what I didn't realize back then. I had no idea about human design, and I didn't have the concept of what was truly aligned for me. So I was trying every single strategy, I was throwing everything I had at it. And yes, I was getting results. But on the flip side of that, I wasn't really able to enjoy the journey or enjoy the process or even enjoy what I was creating for my family because all of my mind and all of my energy and all of my attention was going into trying to grow scale and expand my business. And that burnout started to seep through.

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I was struggling to wake up. My brain was in constant brain fog, constant overwhelm and overload. When I was with my children, I was thinking about business and I was exhausted by the end of the day, and it just wasn't fun for anybody who was around me at that time. So I apologize. And over time, because a lot of what I was actioning in my business wasn't aligned for me, it wasn't fun for me. I just felt like I had to do it. I hit that ban out stage pretty quickly. What I know now with human design is that following your sacral alignment is absolutely crucial. If you're a generator or manifesting generator, you will go all in. And once you're committed, it'll feel very hard to stop until you've seen that thing through to completion, unless you're aware that your sacral no is just as sacred as your sacral.

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Yes. So it got to this point where I couldn't continue like that anymore, and I discovered Charlie Thompson, my beautiful human design mentor, and we started to just strip everything out of my business that wasn't aligned for me. And it was blooming scary. It was terrifying to think that all of these things have been working for me and now I'm not going to do them anymore. What's going to happen? But the result phenomenal. I got my energy back. I got my passion back. I got my drive back. I got my mind and my clarity back. And what actually happened was, although initially there was a little bit of the dip in revenue, once we ironed out all of the cracks and replaced what was no longer aligned for me with things that were strategic, but also very, very deeply aligned with how my energy works, I found that work began to reinvigorate me.

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And it wasn't very long, maybe a couple of months maximum before I started selling out offers and programs again in a way that felt really sustainable for me. And this is one of the things that I love about human design is that you get to follow your own inner compass and learn and discern which marketing and sales strategies are actually going to be easy for you to fulfill or are going to be going to give you back more energy than they actually take away from you. This shift helped me to then have more time with the family. It helped me to be more present when I was with them. I could really switch off from work and know that sales was still coming in, everything was working behind the scenes for me whilst I enjoyed what I was creating with my family. And we went traveling around the UK that year, and it was the most glorious, delicious experience.

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And I'm truly thankful that I found human design. And now I no longer subscribe to that belief system, to the belief that you have to do whatever it takes. So when I ask people, how bad do you really want this? And what are you willing to give? And what are you not willing to give? And I truly believe that we get to have both. So I get to want this really, really badly, and I get to do it in a way that feels really aligned and fulfilling for me and energizing for me. And I get to have that time and experience to be present and patient and loving with my family. I do not have to sacrifice that. I don't have to sacrifice sleep. I don't have to sacrifice my wellbeing in order to be successful. You get to have both. You get to have it all. And it comes from knowing your alignment, knowing what is a sacred yes for you, whether you're a manifester generator, manifesting generator, projector, reflector, or whatever your design type is, knowing your aligned decision making process. And then honoring the sacred yes, and honoring the sacred, no, both of them matter. And it's really, really important that you have that inner compass and that inner discernment. And then, yes, you really do get to have it all.