8th April 2025 - Is The Deadline Real?

Amber Cherelle (00:00):

Hello, beautiful souls and welcome to today's takeaway.

So off the back of yesterday's episode, this contemplation just takes that a little bit deeper as to why we often experience overwhelm and why I was feeling so overwhelmed at the weekend. You see, I set myself a gold, have this academy done by the end of quarter one of 2025 and quarter one has now passed. We are steadily into quarter two, and the academy is perhaps about almost three quarters of the way to completion. And so I'm behind my original deadline. When we set ourselves deadlines, when we set ourselves expectations of when something will be done by that is only set by us. Nobody told me that I needed to have it done by quarter one. That was my desire. Nobody has set this deadline upon me. The only person who has done that is me for me.

(01:07)
And we can have this ability with time to get almost, let's say, overestimate how much we can get done in a certain space of time. Sometimes we don't take into account periods where we might be unwell or periods where things in life might happen and we have to take a few days out. And that's certainly was the case for me. Over quarter one, I was unwell a vast majority of the time as my immunity had taken a hit. And so setting that deadline was like, if everything goes well, I'll be able to get it done by then. But that wasn't the case. And so I set the goalpost and I was somehow feeling like I'd fallen short of that and needed to catch up, and that's where the overwhelm kicked in. There's a moment yesterday where I realized the goalpost was set by me and the goalpost can be moved by me, and in fact, when it gets done, it doesn't really matter.

(02:16)
So have you set yourself deadlines that are arbitrary that don't really matter in the bigger picture because the big vision, what you're building towards, what you want to create for you doesn't need to come in a certain timeframe. If you are creating a program or an offer or a service that is designed to be with your business for a very long time, it is worth taking the time to do it well. It is worth focusing on the quality of your output rather than the speed of your output. Because when you build a product or offer that is of high quality, that does what it says it will do for your buyers. People will have exceptional experiences with your brand and the experiences that they have with your brand will determine whether they go on to recommend you to others, how highly they speak of you, how much they share your work and your body of work.

(03:18)
So slow down. Don't put extra pressure on yourself by saying something has to be done by this date when it doesn't. Instead, focus on making sure that you are moving forwards consistently. So removing the timestamp, removing that deadline doesn't mean we're not going to do anything. It means that I'm going to focus on doing what needs to be done to the best of my ability, to the highest quality, and know that as long as I keep taking steps forward, as long as I keep creating, as long as I keep doing the thing, it will eventually be done to be kind to yourselves beautiful soul, and recognize you're putting pressure on yourselves where it doesn't need to be.